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Dec. 6th, 2001 03:10 pmIt's so depressing working with people who are judgmental and clueless about same-sex relationships. None of them know about us, of course, and living in the closet is itself depressing, but listening with a smile to the snide commentary of coworkers is even worse. Just now, some women were hanging around talking, and said something about how one of them hated it when you come up behind her and play with her hair. I said, "I'd have to be a lot closer friends with someone to let them play with my hair." (I was thinking of Jen; playing with each other's hair is one of our favorite ways to express affection.) One said, "But she and I are close." I said, "Not like that." She answered, "Oh, you mean opposite sex close." I said, "I mean, romantically entangled." Which isn't entirely accurate, on reflection, but no one in that group was going to get into my 'cuddly-friends' category, either.
For some reason, and it may have just been non sequitur, she then asked the group, "Did you hear about that high school where the two girls were elected class sweethearts?" I refrained from commenting, as the rest of them said things like "It just shows..." with the deprecatory inflection that always means "...how society is going down the drain." Meanwhile I was thinking how I wished my high school had been that open-minded. I don't know of *any same-sex couples during my high school years. This may be because I myself was a judgmental fundamentalist christian at the time (people do change, don't they? ;-) ) but if they were openly gay even I'd have known. There just weren't any out couples.
For some reason, and it may have just been non sequitur, she then asked the group, "Did you hear about that high school where the two girls were elected class sweethearts?" I refrained from commenting, as the rest of them said things like "It just shows..." with the deprecatory inflection that always means "...how society is going down the drain." Meanwhile I was thinking how I wished my high school had been that open-minded. I don't know of *any same-sex couples during my high school years. This may be because I myself was a judgmental fundamentalist christian at the time (people do change, don't they? ;-) ) but if they were openly gay even I'd have known. There just weren't any out couples.