Question meme
Aug. 15th, 2007 12:07 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
semperfiona1. Leave me a casual comment of no particular significance, like a lyric to your current favorite song, your favorite kind of sandwich, or maybe your favorite game. Any remark, meaningless or not.
2. I will respond by asking you five personal questions so I can get to know you better.
3. Update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
4. Include this explanation and offer to ask someone else in your own post.
5. When others respond with a desultory comment, you will ask them five questions.
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This is fun, I know NOTHING about you....
Hee! That's why I did it. :-)
1. What is your take on being 'poly'?
The semi-tongue-in-cheek definition I invented: "The state of having multiple lovers whom one is too busy or too tired to have sex with."
That encapsulates several things: multiple partners, love and caring between us, the fact that the relationships aren't based solely on sex but that sex is definitely a part of them (if not as big a part as one might wish at any given time).
To be a little less facetious, poly means I don't have to draw artificial lines around my interactions with people. I'm not really into one night stands, for example, but I'm free to make that choice for myself. Relationships and friendships ebb and flow on their own merits, not the requirements of someone else's idea of monogamy. (I realize that not everything my ex-husband believed and tried to enforce about marriage is built into the institution, but because of that history it is there for me.)
The three of us (![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
ohari (Chris), lavendargrrl (Tammie) and me) share a commitment to make our lives together forever, although none of us are legally married nor have we held any ceremonial joining. Something about the fact that we continue to CHOOSE to be together is more reassuring than being "held" there by an external force.
Our family tends to fall for the same people at the same time, but it's not a requirement, and we believe strongly in the need to build individual dyadic relationships within whatever complex network is formed. When the three of us first got together we even had a schedule for pair-dates; since we've moved in together we've let the schedule go but we still work in a lot of one-on-one time. But we all sleep together in one big bed whenever we're all home, and always have. (In opposition to the Received Poly Knowledge that everyone should have their own room.)
Our house rules might tell you something more about the way we do poly:
1. Don't be an asshole.
2. Kisses before you leave.
3. No dying.
4. Don't stick your dick in Teh Crazy. (i.e. Don't bring drama home.)
Rules 1 and 4 as written were borrowed from folks on![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
polyamory, but they succinctly state the way we feel.
2. Describe what an average day in your world looks like.
Chris gets up first. Tammie and I snuggle for a bit then she gets up. I get up last. I check my email and my LJ fiends list. I go get Rosa out of bed and start her getting ready for school. Once she and I are both ready I take her to school.
Notionally, I arrive at work at 9:00. This never happens. Far too often, I leave home too late to get to work on time. At 10:00, I attend the daily work-handing-out meeting. Work work work until 12ish, when I have lunch. Usually I eat at my desk, but sometimes I go downstairs and eat in the lunchroom. Very rarely, I'll go out for lunch.
After lunch, more work until 5:30 or 6:00. Then go home. Eat dinner. Far too often, we go out for dinner, but lately Tammie's been cooking. Do a few household chores. Help Rosa with her homework and read a book with her. Put her to bed with the nighttime ritual. Watch TV with the family for a while, maybe knit or read a book.
Go to bed. Snuggle. Sleep.
Exciting, ne?
3. What is your guilty pleasure?
Ninja Warrior, perhaps. But I don't really feel guilty about any of my pleasures these days.
4. Blue ink or black?
Purple, but when purple isn't available, black.
5. Tell me something that you think I should know about you, oh, internet friend.
Hmm. Something that's not already in this set of answers, or readily findable in my profile...
Styrofoam is Evil. I get the same spine-creeping sensations from the noise that styrofoam makes when you rub it (or even touch it, depending) that some people get from fingernails on chalkboards. My partners have the job of rescuing me from evil styrofoam. In return, I save them from spiders. ;-)
2. I will respond by asking you five personal questions so I can get to know you better.
3. Update your LJ with the answers to the questions.
4. Include this explanation and offer to ask someone else in your own post.
5. When others respond with a desultory comment, you will ask them five questions.
---------------------------------------
This is fun, I know NOTHING about you....
Hee! That's why I did it. :-)
1. What is your take on being 'poly'?
The semi-tongue-in-cheek definition I invented: "The state of having multiple lovers whom one is too busy or too tired to have sex with."
That encapsulates several things: multiple partners, love and caring between us, the fact that the relationships aren't based solely on sex but that sex is definitely a part of them (if not as big a part as one might wish at any given time).
To be a little less facetious, poly means I don't have to draw artificial lines around my interactions with people. I'm not really into one night stands, for example, but I'm free to make that choice for myself. Relationships and friendships ebb and flow on their own merits, not the requirements of someone else's idea of monogamy. (I realize that not everything my ex-husband believed and tried to enforce about marriage is built into the institution, but because of that history it is there for me.)
The three of us (
ohari (Chris), lavendargrrl (Tammie) and me) share a commitment to make our lives together forever, although none of us are legally married nor have we held any ceremonial joining. Something about the fact that we continue to CHOOSE to be together is more reassuring than being "held" there by an external force. Our family tends to fall for the same people at the same time, but it's not a requirement, and we believe strongly in the need to build individual dyadic relationships within whatever complex network is formed. When the three of us first got together we even had a schedule for pair-dates; since we've moved in together we've let the schedule go but we still work in a lot of one-on-one time. But we all sleep together in one big bed whenever we're all home, and always have. (In opposition to the Received Poly Knowledge that everyone should have their own room.)
Our house rules might tell you something more about the way we do poly:
1. Don't be an asshole.
2. Kisses before you leave.
3. No dying.
4. Don't stick your dick in Teh Crazy. (i.e. Don't bring drama home.)
Rules 1 and 4 as written were borrowed from folks on
polyamory, but they succinctly state the way we feel.2. Describe what an average day in your world looks like.
Chris gets up first. Tammie and I snuggle for a bit then she gets up. I get up last. I check my email and my LJ fiends list. I go get Rosa out of bed and start her getting ready for school. Once she and I are both ready I take her to school.
Notionally, I arrive at work at 9:00. This never happens. Far too often, I leave home too late to get to work on time. At 10:00, I attend the daily work-handing-out meeting. Work work work until 12ish, when I have lunch. Usually I eat at my desk, but sometimes I go downstairs and eat in the lunchroom. Very rarely, I'll go out for lunch.
After lunch, more work until 5:30 or 6:00. Then go home. Eat dinner. Far too often, we go out for dinner, but lately Tammie's been cooking. Do a few household chores. Help Rosa with her homework and read a book with her. Put her to bed with the nighttime ritual. Watch TV with the family for a while, maybe knit or read a book.
Go to bed. Snuggle. Sleep.
Exciting, ne?
3. What is your guilty pleasure?
Ninja Warrior, perhaps. But I don't really feel guilty about any of my pleasures these days.
4. Blue ink or black?
Purple, but when purple isn't available, black.
5. Tell me something that you think I should know about you, oh, internet friend.
Hmm. Something that's not already in this set of answers, or readily findable in my profile...
Styrofoam is Evil. I get the same spine-creeping sensations from the noise that styrofoam makes when you rub it (or even touch it, depending) that some people get from fingernails on chalkboards. My partners have the job of rescuing me from evil styrofoam. In return, I save them from spiders. ;-)
