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May. 15th, 2005 10:34 amRay, and his parents, have a very irritating method of "disciplining" Rosa when she's dilatory about making ready to leave. "Mommy's going to leave without you, Rosa!"
Today, I called him on it. "I don't like you saying that to Rosa."
"It's the logical consequence." (Which is one of those phrases used by some parenting instruction book we read. You know, the punishment should be a logical consequence of the misbehavior.)
"No, it is not. I'm never ever ever going to do that."
"Don't correct me in my house."
"I did not. I said I do not like it." And I don't. It's not just because it's a threat that will never be followed through on, and worse yet a secondhand threat, but it imputes horrid motives to me that are not mine.
I think I'll have to tell him his "logical consequences" threats are not to state anything about *MY* actions.
Today, I called him on it. "I don't like you saying that to Rosa."
"It's the logical consequence." (Which is one of those phrases used by some parenting instruction book we read. You know, the punishment should be a logical consequence of the misbehavior.)
"No, it is not. I'm never ever ever going to do that."
"Don't correct me in my house."
"I did not. I said I do not like it." And I don't. It's not just because it's a threat that will never be followed through on, and worse yet a secondhand threat, but it imputes horrid motives to me that are not mine.
I think I'll have to tell him his "logical consequences" threats are not to state anything about *MY* actions.
