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Heterosexist, sexist, claptrap...
Sep. 18th, 2008 03:29 pmI don't know if I can do this justice. But it so neatly exemplifies the kinds of casually-espoused attitudes that make me crazy working here.
One of the young guys in our department, Mike, is getting married later this month or next. As he used to be on my team, Terry and Randy decided to take him golfing yesterday afternoon as kind of a "bachelor party." Okay, that's kinda cool, if you like golf.
Mike didn't show. Quote, his fiancee wouldn't let him, unquote. Whereupon he undergoes a lot of ribbing about being whipped, etc etc. It turns out, she was upset because he had refused to take time off to go babysit some of her nephews last week, and she didn't like him taking time off to play golf when he wouldn't do it for something she wanted.
I don't much like the revenge-taking that that sounds like, but it seems to me that it would have been best to do both things, rather than neither.
What really got my goat, though, was Art telling Mike that his problem was that he hadn't got her "trained". Yes, that exact word. Still, I kept my head down and my nose in my computer, as I usually do when conversations I want nothing to do with are happening around me. (Yesterday, re the election, for example.)
However, this time I didn't get away with pretending I wasn't here. Terry said, "Let's get a woman's perspective...did you hear all that."
I said, "Enough, yeah."
So then I said I thought they were both in the wrong, that it was a matter of give and take, and remarked that the one I really felt was wrong was Art. "I believe in equality. And in any case I'm glad I'm not married to Art."
Art defended himself by pointing out that *he's* been married 40 years, and I'm divorced.
One of the young guys in our department, Mike, is getting married later this month or next. As he used to be on my team, Terry and Randy decided to take him golfing yesterday afternoon as kind of a "bachelor party." Okay, that's kinda cool, if you like golf.
Mike didn't show. Quote, his fiancee wouldn't let him, unquote. Whereupon he undergoes a lot of ribbing about being whipped, etc etc. It turns out, she was upset because he had refused to take time off to go babysit some of her nephews last week, and she didn't like him taking time off to play golf when he wouldn't do it for something she wanted.
I don't much like the revenge-taking that that sounds like, but it seems to me that it would have been best to do both things, rather than neither.
What really got my goat, though, was Art telling Mike that his problem was that he hadn't got her "trained". Yes, that exact word. Still, I kept my head down and my nose in my computer, as I usually do when conversations I want nothing to do with are happening around me. (Yesterday, re the election, for example.)
However, this time I didn't get away with pretending I wasn't here. Terry said, "Let's get a woman's perspective...did you hear all that."
I said, "Enough, yeah."
So then I said I thought they were both in the wrong, that it was a matter of give and take, and remarked that the one I really felt was wrong was Art. "I believe in equality. And in any case I'm glad I'm not married to Art."
Art defended himself by pointing out that *he's* been married 40 years, and I'm divorced.
