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[semperfiona]

So this morning, in order to better convenience Ray, we met him in St Peters to do the kid exchange. He forgot her medicine, and said, "I'll be home at 3, you can come by and get it."

So at 3:45, I'm in front of his house and there's no sign of him. I called his cellphone. "Are you going to be home anytime soon?"

"No."

"You said you'd be home at 3."

"I was. It's four now and I just left. I've been home since one o'clock."

When I quoted his statement of the morning back to him, he said, snidely, "You're always so easy to deal with."

Now tell me. When you meet someone somewhere other than their home and they say they'll "be home at" a time, do you understand that to mean leaving home at that time or arriving home at that time?

And why, when we didn't come "in time" by his standards, didn't he call me or just drop the medicine off at our house before going out with his friends?

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[scottak.livejournal.com]

"And why, when we didn't come "in time" by his standards, didn't he call me or just drop the medicine off at our house before going out with his friends?"

Perhaps because he's a jackass?

[a2macgeek.livejournal.com]

Heck, he forgot her medicine, he should be the one bringing it to you, not the other way around!

[bbwoof.livejournal.com]

You *are* easy to deal with. For him. Because you permit him to do this shit to you.

Stop it.

[ona-tangent.livejournal.com]

He can't find a real reason to be angry with you so he is trying to punish you with this kind of insignificant BS. Don't let him get to you.

[semperfiona]

My judgment in this case is that he knew he was in the wrong so he preemptively lashed out at me.

Turns out Rosa didn't get any medicine at all on Saturday. Jackass.

Wow

[bzero]

What an ass. I agree with the others -- he forgot the medicine, he should be bringing it to you. And, yes, "I'll be home at 3" means "come by after three" to anyone else.

[lil-mischif.livejournal.com]

You know, to me, that sounds rather like neglect. Is your sharing custody of her voluntary? If he's going to be that irresponsible, you might consider being a full time parent. At least that's my two cents.

And I agree about the "at 3pm" statement. "I'll be home at 3:00pm" means that's when the person is getting home and you can come by after that. No other qualifications means any time after that, at your convenience.

[beckyzoole.livejournal.com]

I'm going to agree with everyone else who said that he forgot the medicine, he should have gone out of his way to bring it to you.

You have got to be a hard-ass with him, otherwise he's going to continue to walk all over you.